Communication Problem

Being a single child in my family and studied in famous boys school (St Paul Boys) from 6-16. I was so concentrated in studied and had poor social life. And I have poor communication with my family (my mum loves me, but we never communicate well).

My communication skills had problems. This problem is being magnified in work, my language study and talking with my flatmate

I found out because of my understanding skill was very weak. Evidence to prove this are:
In my japanese exam, although I could translate the text into chinese word directly in the comprehension, I didn t really understand what the authors said, especially regarding the underlying meaning of the text. In other words, even though the text was translated in Chinese, i would get it wrong.

I failed Chinese listening with a grade U (unclassified) in two consecutive years. Even though the test was conducted in Cantonese.

When I talked to my flatmate, I always misunderstood her meaning. She is complaining sometimes. We even had arguments many times because of these small little things..

When I talked to the clients at work. I always misunderstood her meaning and I always ask for summarizations. This is more challenging due to different knowledge between the client and me. For example, the client asks me "You told me that it took 5 minutes to fix it, how come you charge for 3 hours" and My answer is "Yes I took 5 minute to fix it, but I took 3 hours to diagnose the problem"..

I had tried to listen and understand what the other person say.

Learning to love, my confess

Today I went to buddhist centre. Haven't went to buddhist centre for a long time, I saw many old friends.

I realis at a particular moment when Blante Mahinda told us about love. Only love can conquer anger, only love can conquer amenities. I realise what I had done to my friends is a result of lack of practice of buddhist teachings..

The centre of me is the mind. My mind dictates everything. I realise that my mind was so out of control, that my emotions are totally out of control. I could see anger, jealously inside my feeling. I forgot how to love and care someone.

I could see my anger and jealously anyway when I have heavy emotional problem, but I choose not to control it. Today, after I listen to the buddhist teaching. I am so happy and willing to control my emotion. At that very moment, all my bad emotions calm down.

In buddhist teaching, I should say this every day many times when I wake up

May I be round and happy
May I be free from anger
May I be free from amenity
May everyone be round and happy
May everyone be free from anger
May everyone be free from amenity

Coaching by my flatmate

Her voice gave me uncomfort on one occassion...